Healing Together: Patient and Brigham PCA Publish Memoir
Panther Mayen, a personal care assistant (PCA) in the Dana-Farber/Brigham and Women’s Cancer Center, never imagined that one of his patients would end up helping him recover from the trauma of his childhood.
Thirty years ago, at the age of 6, Mayen was one of 20,000 children forced to run for his life during Sudan’s civil war. These children became known as the “Lost Boys of Sudan.”
By the age of 7, Mayen had already endured so much tragedy and heartache. In addition to leaving behind his family and home, he had to bury a childhood friend.
“For four years, I was running to escape the violence and sadness,” Mayen said. “I dodged bullets and bombs and saw things that no child should ever have to see. I spent a good part of my life without food and water. Every day I would cry because I missed my family.”
When Brigham patient David Reed heard Mayen’s story, the retiree from Concord, Mass., encouraged Mayen to share it. Together, they composed Mayen’s autobiography, Escaping Nightmares, Living Dreams: A True Story of One of The Lost Boys of Sudan, which was published on April 7.
In 1992, after walking more than 900 miles barefoot, Mayen made it to one of the world’s largest refugee camps in Kenya. He would remain there for nine agonizing years, until he was selected for resettlement in Boston in June 2001.
As a refugee in Kenya, Mayen worked as a medical assistant helping doctors and nurses in the camp. He received his PCA certification after coming to the U.S. and was hired by BWH in 2002.
Mayen says he’s thankful for all of the opportunities he’s been given in the U.S. While it has been difficult trying to move past what he describes as “the nightmares of his childhood,” Mayen feels blessed to be in a better place today.
A Story That ‘Needed to be Told’
It was early last year when Reed, who was at the Brigham for a week following a stem cell transplant, met Mayen. The transplant helped Reed restore healthy bone marrow after receiving treatment for leukemia.
Mayen, who works the night shift, watched over Reed each evening. He would check Reed’s vitals and take him on short walks around the unit.
During their walks, the two men would make small talk. At one point, Reed asked Mayen if he was comfortable sharing more about his life. Reed started out by asking Mayen where he was from.
“He said he was from Sudan,” Reed said. “In the maybe 30 minutes in total that I spent with him throughout that week, I heard bits and pieces of Panther’s story and was totally overwhelmed. I suggested to him that his story needed to be told and published.”
Reed remembers not being able to sleep the night he heard Mayen’s story: “I felt as if I had this big weight on my chest. My heart was racing. I knew I had to help Panther tell his story.”
At first, Mayen was hesitant to proceed with a book based on journals he kept since childhood. He worried Reed wouldn’t be able to read his handwriting and understand what he was trying to say, as English isn’t his first language. But after thinking more about it, Mayen realized that sharing his story would help him heal.
With Mayen’s permission, Reed and his wife, Florence, went through Mayen’s journals and worked to transcribe his memories and stories into a 165-page book.
“David and Florence, whom I call ‘Mom’ and ‘Dad,’ motivated and encouraged me to share my story,” Mayen said. “It wasn’t always easy reliving my past throughout this process, but I thank them for dedicating their time to helping me make this book a reality.”
‘My Heart Is Healing, Piece by Piece’
Holding the published book in his hand for the first time earlier this year was a gratifying feeling, Mayen said. The process helped him heal and recover from the trauma he endured for so many years. He hopes the book will help educate people around the world about the Lost Boys of Sudan.
Mayen has already sent several copies of the book to his village in South Sudan. He is hoping to go back soon to talk with schoolchildren there about his experiences.
Recently, Reed helped Mayan to create an audio recording of his autobiography in his native language, Dinka, to share with his family and schoolchildren in South Sudan.
“I’m so glad I did this,” Mayen said. “I was able to let my raw emotions out and give readers a real look into what I, and so many other children, experienced during the war. Because of this book, my heart is healing, piece by piece.”
Proceeds from the book, available on Amazon.com, go to schoolchildren in South Sudan.
11 Responses to “Healing Together: Patient and Brigham PCA Publish Memoir”
What a wonderful wonderful story. Copies of Panther’s book should be sold at the Brigham and Dana Farber Gift Shops!!! I bet more copies would be sold if it was right there in front of you to take home.
This will be a great book not only to read, but also to discuss in book clubs. I’m certainly going to suggest it to mine.
Panther is a wonderful man and person . I can’t wait to buy and share his book!
I need to buy this book for my 15 years old son to read. it’s a real life story.
Wow, this is wonderful. Panther is one of the most kind hearted people I’ve had the pleasure of working with. I didn’t know the backstory to this incredibly pairing of patient and bedside assistant. Thank you.
A special thank you to Mr. and Mrs. Reed for facilitating this wonderful gift to Mr. Mayen. I pray that his painful journey is lessened by his sharing of his personal experiences.
this is such a wonderful story of an unlikely collaboration–and a chance for healing while educating others of the “Lost Boys of Sudan.” where can we purchase the book?
Hi Ebonie: Thanks for writing, and glad you enjoyed the story. The book may be purchased on Amazon.com.
I could not hold my tears by reading his story. Thanks to the Reed’s family, by helping Panther to heal slowly. He is such a wonderful person and smiling whenever I see him, without knowing his past endurance. Stay blessed!
I have worked with Panther for many years and really had no idea about his childhood.I am so glad they wrote this,it shows how you can overcome the worse of adversity,and still be so kind,generous,and caring.Thank you both for sharing,it’s an incredible journey.
It has always been such a pleasure and a privilege to work with Panther. He brings a calm, comforting presence to our patients. Reading his story of courage and faith is deeply moving, humbling, and so inspiring! The book is a gift to all of us, who need to be informed of human atrocities, and to be reminded of the tremendous power of each little act of kindness towards one another. It is also a testament to the value of faith in God to carry us through the most difficult times of our lives. Thanks to Panther for sharing this story!